The wisdom of a father
Only fathers are qualified to give parental wisdom, just as mothers’ wisdom is their exclusive domain.
So here is some of what I have to offer.
Parents don’t always get the respect they deserve. It is not until a man embarks on the full journey of parenthood that he realizes how this will affect him. However, if he wants to, he grows up and the whole family prospers. But if it doesn’t grow, everyone suffers. Parents must be respected, but more than that, they must cope when they are not.
Any parent worth his or her role knows that coins are worldly, and then there is timelessness. He is willing to trade all of the above to save as much of the latter as he can: the heart and soul of his daughter. But you must accept that you have no control over anything you really live to appreciate. Still, he’s happy. That only option is yours.
Parenthood can be the most humiliating of all human roles given man’s instantaneous propensity for pride. He knows it is weakness, but he struggles to give up his strength. But, praise God, life will take away that earthly strength, through parenthood, and give you something that no one can take away from you.
A parent learns the hard way to let go. You have no choice. If he doesn’t choose, that choice will be made for him, and that’s a slap on an already swollen cheek.
God orders fatherhood in the life cycle of man. How else will you achieve the character traits you were destined to acquire from the beginning? Any male who is not a father will be called upon to serve as a mentor or surrogate father of some kind. All must suffer the humiliation of leaders or they will lead unacceptably protected lives.
There are all kinds of parents, but real parents are kind. Its strength is not harsh, and while it may appear weak, it is stronger when it counts. Until then, anyone with selfishness will find it a weakness. The true strength of the father is a complete paradox. It’s never just about him.
A father knows he has “made it” when he is happy that he is not at the center of his girls’ world, happy to “give it away” and give him the permission he needs to make his way.
Some parents need to know these things, some don’t, and some won’t agree. That’s how it is. Well let it be.