Find out what’s stopping you

When you have some kind of challenge, be it personal, professional, etc. There is a fast and free way to quickly find out what is going on; to understand why you do things, or want things, or need things. It is asking progressively penetrating questions. The most important requirement for this technique to work is the ability to be honest with yourself. What is discovered may surprise you.

Is that how it works:

1) Identify what you are struggling with.

2) Ask yourself why you are doing/wanting/needing this.

3) Answer honestly.

4) Do steps 2 and 3 a total of 7 times, going deeper and deeper.

For example, for me it can be something like:

1) Why do I want or feel the need or desire to increase my income?

My first answer would be: I need to have more (disposable) income to be able to continue marketing my brand.

So the second question would be:

2) Why would you need to continue to market your brand (ie “Fantastic Frank”)?

My answer would be: This is how I define myself.

So the third question would be:

3) Why is it important to you?

To this I would reply: My mission statement is “My life’s purpose is to be a man who can give and receive love RIGHT NOW.”

So the fourth question would be

4) Why do you need or require love now?

My answer would be: I’m alone, my Yang lacks Ying.

So the fifth question would be:

5) Why do you feel lonely when you have so many people helping you, assisting you, employed by you?

My answer would be: Because I don’t have a girlfriend or a wife.

The sixth question is:

6) What happens when you focus on giving love instead of receiving it?

To this I would say: When I am loving others, I feel fulfilled and happy, and I forget to be alone.

7) What prevents you from loving others?

Finally: I do not love others, nor am I able to feel their love for me, when I am too focused on myself.

Those seven questions led me to what underlies everything in my life. What started out as a question about money came back as an answer about love. My desire to increase my income is related to my desire to give and receive love. Every time I give of myself in love, I don’t worry why my income doesn’t grow. I know that when I give what I treasure most (love) it will come back to me in many connected ways, not just money.