Dealing With An Arrogant Husband: How To Cut It Down

You are never quite sure what the path ahead will present to you as you walk down the hall to marital bliss. Marriage is often very different from love life, and there may be aspects of your husband’s personality that you didn’t even know existed before you became his wife. One of those qualities is usually arrogance. Some men are masters at hiding this part of themselves while busy sweeping a woman. However, once a couple has settled into married life, all those little secrets often come to light. If you are currently living with a husband whose ego is bigger than both of you, that is an issue you can obviously ignore. Dealing with an arrogant husband requires patience, measured distance, and a deep understanding of what motivates you.

Arrogant people almost always lack self-esteem. This seems ridiculous at first glance. How can someone who seems so in love with himself feel some kind of self-esteem problem? It’s about making up for your insecurities by treating others in a very specific and negative way. When it comes to an arrogant husband, you need to truly understand that your problems have much more to do with him than with you.

If you want to reduce it to the necessary size, you must emotionally distance yourself from its selfish behavior. If you allow his arrogance to shine through when the two of you are in public, stay away from him. Do not become a partner in his mistreatment of others. If he prefers to target you to boost his own self-esteem, stay away from him. That may mean spending less time concentrating on him and more time doing the things he enjoys. If there is no one to play with this type of negative behavior, your husband will not feel that he is accomplishing anything by continuing to do so.

You also have to criticize him for behavior that you don’t think is appropriate. However, this must be done in a very measured way. Simply telling an arrogant person that you think they are arrogant will not accomplish much. They will take your interest as beneficial and feel more important because you are showing that emotion. It is much better to tell your husband sternly that you are not attracted to him when he acts that way and you feel ashamed to be in his presence. This is obviously tough love and it’s going to hurt when you hear it. However, it has the potential to really get to your emotional core and make you think for a moment about what you are doing.

Some people suggest that the best way to deal with an arrogant husband is to give him a taste of his own medicine. Clearly, you are not like him and you don’t want to become like him. It is better not to get into these childish games with your spouse. It is much better to calmly express your disappointment and then create some distance. This is a great way to get your message across in a mature and rational way.