Are you driving men away without realizing it?
Many women are driving men away without realizing it. The first step to change this is awareness. See if you are doing any of these things:
1. Closed body language
Body language is 93% of our communication. It says a lot about your body, and the way you put yourself out there is important because it communicates whether or not you’re open and approachable.
Many women have their “guard up” without even realizing it. They go out with a large bag that they hold in front of them at all times, or they hold a drink in front of their body, or if they take off their jacket, they put it on their lap or hold it in front of them – and it’s like they have “armor ” around it. I still have to remind myself not to do some of these things!
You also don’t want to be engrossed in your phone when you’re out in public. Cell phones actually cut you off from the real world when you’re outside, they distract you and take you out of the moment. They allow you to “hide”.
A man will not approach you if it seems that you are busy with something else. If you’re in a place where men can approach and interact with you, you’ll want to convey with your body language that you’re open and approachable.
Try to practice this in low risk situations – you want to keep your energy open 100% of the time, so even if there are no men around you can still practice this and build up your tolerance.
These things are subtle but make a world of difference! You want to show that you are open by smiling and making eye contact with everyone who crosses your path. That energy itself will put you in a place where you are open and available to meet someone new.
2. Payment on dates
Many women have become accustomed to paying half the bill on dates. This is due to our independent nature: we earn our own money and can buy our own things.
You may feel obligated to pay half the bill to show a man that you can take care of yourself. Also, you don’t want him to expect anything else from you, like sex. Here’s the thing…
Men don’t expect sex when they ask you out. They expect to have a good time and get to know you, but they don’t expect sex. Sure, they WOULD LIKE to sleep with you (what guy wouldn’t?), and they’ll probably say yes if you offer, but they don’t expect it.
Women often want to pay on dates because they don’t want to send the wrong message. The thing is, a guy won’t arrange any date activities that he can’t afford, so you shouldn’t feel obligated to pay half the bill.
A good masculine energy man WILL WANT to take care of you and show you a good time, and may even be offended if you try to pay when you’re on a date.
Paying on dates is a way that women unconsciously try to control the outcome. of the situation, which ends up alienating the men. You want to let go of control and expectations, and let him be the man.
Let him do things like plan the date, make dinner reservations, and pick you up. This is not selfish at all – this is what masculine energy men WANT to do!
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