Marriage led by women can uncork surprising feelings in a marriage

Female-led marriage is one of those factors that goes unnoticed and goes on forever, unnoticed. But that a focus of attention can help raise the core of this type of relationship so that the rest of society benefits from one of the traits that are usually involved… feelings.

Feelings and emotions are the glue that holds any relationship together. Sometimes that glue seems to get stronger as the relationship ages, but sadly, more often the story seems to be one of calcifying and crumbling glue reflecting the quality of the relationship itself. However, for the association to survive, both the glue and the association must be resilient and symbiotic, strengthening each other to strengthen the relationship.

Of course, charity begins at home. Ultimately, each of us is responsible for our own feelings and outlook on life. But even the slightest life experience will have told you that if someone around you is in a bad mood, chances are very soon you will be too.

Do you feel like a reframing is coming? A different way of seeing your life? What are the chances if you deliberately try to improve the way your ‘better half’ feels? What could happen? How could I make you feel? Actually? So what would happen to their relationship? Actually?

You will often find that experts in the field of interfering in marital disputes develop an arsenal…it is partly to protect themselves and partly to help the couple take a step back and take a fresh look at their situation. Sometimes the contents of that arsenal are like a good toolkit: lots of tools to use when appropriate. Others structure it more formally: “here is the answer ready for Situation A”. Many of the formal structures include specific steps for women to follow and specific steps for men to follow.

Here is the puzzle. Do a search on your favorite engine and publicly available tips and advice on what each sex should do to make the other feel happy… and discover that they seem to be the polar opposite of traditional roles. Particularly in female-led marriage. Some simply change the priority—for example, ‘tell her how sexy she is’ scores twice as low on the ‘make her feel good’ scale as it does on the male scale—but others differ dramatically.

This may indicate a change in the mores of the society, or a single line of tertiary education. I don’t know. But this is for sure… open the floodgates to experiment… I hope you enjoy the fruits of it!