How long should I wait before contacting my ex-girlfriend?

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Your girlfriend broke up with you, you have a broken heart and you want your ex back. However, so far there has been no contact.

Is there a set rule about how long you should wait before calling an ex-girlfriend? And when you call her, what exactly should you say?

Contact after breakup is one of the most confusing things to figure out. It’s a mystery that always leaves you wondering if you’re doing the right thing, no matter how you choose to handle it.

For one thing, you want to talk to her. Hell, you miss her like crazy. You need to hear his voice again. And besides, you don’t want her to think you’ve forgotten about her and possibly move on with another guy, do you?

But on the other side of the coin, she hasn’t called you. Calling her may seem like a need or a desperation. And you wouldn’t want your ex to think those things about you … especially not if you’re trying to get it back in some way.

So is there a middle ground? A time when it’s okay to call or contact your ex without looking like a fool? Some kind of conversation that really makes sense, instead of stumbling and stumbling over your own silly words?

Even better: can you make SHE call you?

What does it mean when she does not communicate with you

First, understand that just because your girlfriend doesn’t call you doesn’t mean she’s not thinking of you. The fact is, he’s probably thinking about you quite a bit.

What your ex is doing right now is ignoring you for a very simple reason: detachment. She has decided that she wants you to leave, and the best way to avoid falling apart and taking you back is not to see you or hear from you.

This is because during their relationship the two formed some very powerful emotional bonds. Love, sex, intimacy; All the fun they had, the places they saw together, family and friends, and the vacations they shared, these things forged strong connections that cannot be easily broken. And some of these connections stay in place, even after she leaves you, for a long time.

Getting your ex back requires simple investment techniques that are geared toward getting her to deal with those emotional ties. You want him to see what he’s missing, instead of turning his back on those feelings and pretending they’re buried.

So what does she do? She loses your phone number. She gets rid of you on Facebook, separates from Instagram, stops talking to her friends, and tells her own friends not to provide any information about her. This way, she can move on.

Should you call your ex after the breakup?

No, not right away.

There are several steps to getting back with someone. The first step is always the no contact rule. It is exactly what it sounds like; you must promise yourself that you will not call (or send text messages, emails, etc.) to your ex girlfriend no matter how much you want. This is very important.

What this does is create distance between you and your lover. You may think that is bad, but at first it is very good. It is human nature to want to be right; your ex wants to think he made the right moves when your romance ended. So to verify this? He will often look at you to see how you are doing.

If you are doing it wrong? That is a good sign for her. Show that she’s better off without you because you’re worse off without it. Sounds bad, right? But again, it is human nature.

Now if you are doing it right? That is not what you want to see. It actually reverses his thinking and makes him wonder if he should have let you go or not. A guy who does well without her is a guy who has his things together. Suddenly, you’re valuable again, simply because you didn’t care (or didn’t seem to care) when she kicked you out.

Which brings me to the next great rule of human nature: you always want the things you can’t have.

When to call your ex

If you stopped ALL contact and your ex hasn’t called you, there is an acceptable time during which you can reach her. While this varies from case to case, as a general rule, you will want to wait four to six weeks.

“BUT THAT’S FOREVER !!!”

Yes. It is. And it will feel like a double eternity to you, because your heart is breaking and you desperately want to hear from her again.

But you know what? Waiting that long will do something very important: pique your curiosity. It’s going to make you wonder where you mysteriously went and how you apparently didn’t look back.

This makes her mature to hear from you.

Understand something: calling your ex too soon, within the first few days of the breakup, is a HUGE red flag. Not only does he not want to hear from you, but worse, your ex-girlfriend doesn’t even want to started To start missing you still

Wait four to six weeks, and not only will he listen to everything you say, but your ex will already be on the brink of nostalgia. She will miss you. Hearing your voice will take her back to the relationship, and probably to the GOOD part of the relationship when it was all unicorns and rainbows.

You’ve heard the phrase “Time heals all wounds.” It does, but it also erases the bad and accentuates the good. As time goes by, your girlfriend will forget all the fights, bad things, and other nonsense that separated you. When she thinks about what their relationship was all about, those things will have faded.

What’s left? THE GOOD THINGS. All the happy times and great things and great sex. Your heart will pull on those strong emotional ties I spoke about earlier, replaying them in your memory.

Okay, I called her. Now what do I say?

Before you think about calling your ex girlfriend, you will basically need a script. You’ll want to know exactly what to say and, more importantly, what topics to avoid at all costs.

If you think you can just pick up the phone and go totally alone, you’re going to crash and burn. In other words, you MUST know what you are doing. A step-by-step plan is always better than a “fly through the seat of your pants” approach.

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