Dating Tips for Shy Guys: How to Start a Conversation
Do you want to know some good dating tips for shy guys? If so, great, you’ve come to the right place. In this article I’m going to focus on the biggest problem most shy guys have and that is starting a conversation with a woman.
When you approach a woman to start a conversation, this is known as opening or using an opener. In its simplest terms, it just means that you are saying something to get their attention and start a conversation. There are two ways to open. The most common way most men open is to use a straight opener to tell a woman “You are so cute” or to complement her appearance in some way. While this can sometimes work, using this method correctly indicates to her that you are interested in her sexually, which may scare her. The method I recommend using is an indirect opener. The best indirect openers telegraph without interest and ask an open question (meaning the woman cannot simply answer yes or no) and allow you to tell an interesting story.
A perfect example of an indirect opener is an opinion opener. Here is an example of an opinion opener. “Hey, can I give your opinion on something? Do you think it’s weird that guys wear eyeliner?” The woman will then give her opinion and can then enter an interesting story explaining why she asked the question. In the example above, you could say, “Well I was wearing eyeliner the other night and a lot of women came up to me to tell me how sexy my eyes were, but all my friends thought it was weird.” This opener will work very well because it doesn’t convey any interest and your story gives you high social status by describing how you were surrounded by women all night telling you how sexy you are.
There you have one of the best dating tips for shy guys, use an opinion opener to start a conversation. You can make up your own opinion openers with real stories from your own life and they will work great! The most important thing to remember is that those who open your opinion telegraph without interest and ask an open question. Once you’ve opened, the attraction process can begin and that’s where the fun really begins.